Sometimes, masturbation is like scratching an itch—the desire is just there from the getgo. Other times, you have to create that itch. Even on days when you're not desperately turned on, making time for masturbation has lots of benefits, from helping you explore your sexuality to relieving stress and even improving your health.
How do you take your arousal from 0 to 60, though? We asked the experts for their best masturbation tips for women to help you get your body and mind ready for sex, solo or with a partner.
Mental distractions are an incredibly common mood-killer. Thinking about what you need to grab at the grocery store or emails you need to send can all but destroy your arousal. To help quiet the running list of things to do in your head and get your attention on your body, Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Becoming Cliterate, recommends a relaxing activity, like listening to music.
A bath or shower may be particularly helpful to get you into a sensual mindset, says Astroglide's resident sexologist Jess O'Reilly, Ph.D.. "Scan your body starting at your feet, taking note of its texture and temperature and working your way up to your face," she advises. Notice the slip of the soapy water against your skin, the soft heat of the steam on your face. "As you become more mindful of your body, you may find that your interest in self-pleasure increases."
You might not think of sweating it out at the gym as a particularly sexy activity let alone one of the experts' go-to masturbation tips, but getting your blood flowing and your endorphins running "gets you into a more body-focused state," says Mintz. After a particularly intense workout, take a moment to admire your strength and everything your body can accomplish. Sometimes showing yourself a little emotional self-love leads to showing yourself some physical self-love.
3. Adjust the temperature
Physical discomfort is not exactly a turn-on, so keeping the room at a comfortable temperature will help free you from distractions, says Mintz. Being warm and cozy isn't just a matter of personal preference may—there's actually research showing women are more likely to orgasm when wearing socks, potentially because they improve circulation.
4. Block out a special time
The thrill of getting caught may be hot under certain circumstances, but chances are, knowing someone might walk in any minute will be a mood-killer, says Mintz. Block out plenty of time when you won't be interrupted so that you don't feel rushed.
5. Watch an erotic video
Contrary to stereotype, research shows that women get very visually aroused, says Mintz. So, one of the easiest ways to turn yourself on is to watch porn. Check out these female-friendly porn sites or your favorite sexy movie scene.
Often, the most powerful libido aid is your own mind. "Some people can reach orgasm from fantasy alone," says O'Reilly. Most women probably need a little more action but fantasies are still incredibly powerful. "As your mind wanders, the desire to touch yourself or turn on your favorite toy may heighten," says O'Reilly.
7. Just go for it
You don't necessarily need to be in the mood before you masturbate. Often, experiencing physical pleasure will get you in the mood, says O'Reilly. "Arousal doesn’t always follow desire; sometimes arousal, is what leads to desire," she explains. "If you like the results of masturbating (e.g. relaxation, a good night’s sleep, pain relief, pleasure) but you’re not in the mood, consider putting yourself in the mood just as you might do with a partner."
Published at Sat, 23 Mar 2019 20:00:00 +0000